| There is a well known psychological theory called | | | | perfect way everything that disappoints them |
| the expectations disappoints theory. The theory | | | | affects their self esteem right away. After all if a |
| states that the resultant mood a person | | | | perfectionist believes that being perfect is an |
| experiences after an event is the difference | | | | essential requirement for being worthy then he |
| between his expectations and the outcomes he | | | | will feel worthless if he didn't manage to be |
| got. For example if a man expected to begin his | | | | perfect. Living in a such an imperfect life |
| life with 8000 Euro starting salary he might feel | | | | perfectionists keep losing their self esteem bit by |
| bad if he started with 7000 even though this is a | | | | bit until they feel completely worthless. |
| very good starting salary. Since a perfectionist | | | | The other draw back of perfectionism is that it |
| expects everything to be perfect he faces | | | | never makes the person feel satisfied after doing |
| disappointments all the time, these | | | | something even if he has done it well. After all |
| disappointments doesn't only make him feel bad | | | | self Esteem is all about trusting your abilities and |
| but they badly affect his self confidence and self | | | | skills but if each time you do something you |
| esteem. | | | | never feel that it was good, how come can you |
| For perfectionists: | | | | feel confident? That's why perfectionists never |
| Each rejection makes them feel unloved | | | | feel confident even though the main reason they |
| Each failure makes them feel incompetent | | | | try to be perfect is to feel good about |
| Each mistake makes lowers their self confidence | | | | themselves, |
| Each success that wasn't 100% perfect makes | | | | Perfectionism and self esteem |
| them feel like losers | | | | There is no way a person can feel good about |
| How perfectionism Affects self esteem | | | | himself and have a high self esteem while he is a |
| Because perfectionists expect to be treated in a | | | | perfectionist. |