The Unsupportive Husband: The Role Of Self-Help Books To Getting The Career You Want

"In sickness and health," "til death do us part"deftly lays out the secrets to turning away from
– all very powerful words in marriage vows.a life of poverty and towards a life of wealth and
It's a common refrain that successful marriagessuccess. Hill studied and shares through his writing
take a lot of work. There are so manythe techniques and mindsets shared by countless
components to keeping both people happy withnumber of uber successful people in a variety of
each other, namely good communication, veryindustries. The work has been reprinted a lot over
little drama when it comes to making financialthe years and the 21st century version is offered
decisions, right?as well. If you're looking for what many consider
What do couples do when person A in theto be an original blueprint for achievement, this
relationship wants to make a decision that thebook (and, in fact, there's a whole series of
person B doesn't agree with? Option 1 is forrelated materials) is a great place to start.
person A to do it anyway and risk alienatingAnother book that is considered a well-respected
person B if the decision turns out to be thecornerstone of people in the market for personal
wrong one. Option 2 is for person A to forgetimprovement and continual success in life is
about it altogether and completely acquiesce toSteven Covey's The Seven Habits of Highly
the desires of person B. And, of course, option 3Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal
is the great compromise where both parties get aChange (published in 2004). Covey takes his
little something out of the deal. Anyone who'sreaders on a journey filled with illustrative stories
spent any time at all in a long-term relationshipabout the power of managing one's life and the
has experienced this scenario countless number ofpowerful importance of embracing
times.interdependence. The book is about how to go
The situation gets a little more complicated,about living a principled life in order to achieve
however, when the decision in question has to dosuccess and personal happiness.
with making a major career decision. The trickyIf those books are old-school personified, Do You!
part here is that the move could be somethingTwelve Laws to Access the Power in You to
that person A is really excited about and wantsAchieve Happiness and Success by Russell
to go through with it even though the decisionSimmons is a 21st century definitive motivational
could potentially be life-changing. What if theguide that was published in 2007 and continues to
spouse doesn't want life to change? And whenbe sold worldwide today. The multi-millionaire
you take the gender-neutral rules out of themusic and television entertainment producer, a
equation, that familiar book (you know the onemega mogul by anyone's definition, Simmons
about women and men being from differentgenerously shares key anecdotes from the past
planets) taught us that men seek to solve20 years of his career that illustrate the laws of
problems for women when a lot of times womensuccess he's followed that have made him what
simply want to be supported not directed. So ifhe is today.
person A is a woman and she has a male spouseFor those of you who are moved by a more
he may be pretty unsupportive of her big careerspiritual frame of reference, consider Dr. Michael
move, particularly if it's risky or represents anyBeckwith's The Life Visioning Process: An
sort of paradigm shift away from what she usedEvolutionary Journey to Live as Divine Love. One
to do for a living.of the co-founders of The Secrets, made popular
In these tough economic times when so manyby The Oprah Winfrey television series,
people are losing their jobs, are underemployed,Beckwith's book (published in 2008) guides readers
or simply unhappy and unfulfilled in the jobs theytowards the critical brainstorming phase of figuring
have, it's vitally important to take the time to getout your life's purpose, what you're supposed to
absolutely quiet and still and to listen to your ownbe doing as a career. A hallmark of this book is
voice. Not every decision you make isthe guidance that it offers readers to stripping
collaborative just because you're married, becauseoneself from the victim mentality and offers
at the end of the day you're the one who has tosolutions towards living a life of empowerment.
live your own life. So what's a gal to do? Eat right,Think you don't have enough time in your life to
get enough zzz's , and add a healthy dosage ofrealistically read all of these books? Get the audio
good ‘ole self-help guide medicine, that's what.version and listen to them in your car. The point
Because it takes real guts to change course inhere is that we may be in the year 2010, but
one's life, you've got to keep that steady streamthere's nothing new about the need sometimes
of positive messages in your head to get strongfor a married woman get a little help from
mentally. On the computer? Use the search termsomeone other than her husband to stand on her
"life coach" and you'll find the latest intimation ofown two feet…and still stay married by doing it
motivational speaker chat whenever you need it.ethically, morally, and spiritually consistent with
Want to get your daily dose of positivity to carryyour values of course! Whether it's finding a life
around with you in old-fashioned form? Let's takecoach online, reading the time-tested words of
a closer look at a few of the really goodsome of the best 20th century coaches, or
motivational books out there, two old school andgleaning the secrets of our favorite new-school
two newer ones.sages, there's an effective message out there for
Think and Grow Rich. This is a real classic.anyone who needs to hear it. All you have to do
Published back in 1937, the author Napoleon Hillis look for it.