| A duo shall seek couple counseling. Expert | | | | them for sympathy and consolation; besides, you |
| counseling can help sort out troubles that hamper | | | | have family and friends for that. Try always to |
| a successful marriage. | | | | stick to pertinent facts when speaking to your |
| You want three things in your divorce lawyer; | | | | divorce lawyer, not general complaints about your |
| expertise, reliability, and the right attitude. Ideally a | | | | spouse's behavior as this is just a waste of your |
| divorce attorney should be spending half their | | | | money if use them as a sounding board. |
| time dealing with divorce cases and preferably | | | | The most important aspect for you to get sorted |
| one who is a good mediator. All this will be waste | | | | out is the control of the situation which should be |
| if you do not feel you can trust them, so look for | | | | yours and then you will be able to use your |
| a person you feel comfortable with. | | | | lawyer more effectively. You are employing them |
| Those attorneys who prefer mediation will look to | | | | for their experience but at the same time you |
| solve problems by talking and not through the | | | | need them to understand that it is your divorce |
| conflict based approach many attorneys wish to | | | | and you want to make the decisions about how it |
| provide. To get the most from your divorce | | | | is too proceed. You will need to instruct them to |
| lawyer, be well prepared and have everything | | | | forward any information they have received to |
| written down; do not waste your money and | | | | you and you expect a prompt reply to any issue |
| time asking questions, the answers to which are | | | | you may raise. |
| readily available. | | | | Instead of hiring a lawyer, it may be far more |
| Plan each conversation by making an agenda and | | | | cost-effective to use the lawyer just for |
| write down the things you want to talk about; | | | | information or advice on specific subjects like a |
| take notes on the content of the conversation | | | | marital settlement because that may be all the |
| and the amount of time spent on phone calls. As | | | | legal help you will need. This means that a little |
| all costs relating to law and legal advice are costly, | | | | research is necessary on your part but once you |
| try not to visit them at the office unless | | | | have completed this, it is much easier to contact |
| absolutely necessary; this can be achieved by | | | | a lawyer to ask them specific questions and how |
| using the phone or mail. | | | | they see your case concluding. It is not |
| Regard your attorney as a resource, not | | | | uncommon for people to draw up their own |
| someone you depend on for emotional support | | | | marital settlements with the help of a divorce |
| because they cost too much for you to use | | | | lawyer who is familiar with the case. |